Somehow I missed these posts, but they're great

Ah, thank god for the good guys (though I suppose it's kind of sad to be thanking god that there are men who get the basic fundamental concept that women are their equals). Mimbreno gave me the heads up to a couple of great posts, indirectly inspired by the foolish fallout after Gilliard stumbled on his dick while trying to say that school trips to Aruba should supervise their charges, but somehow ended up saying that women who leave bars with men they've just met ought to know that this constitutes consent for sex.

From that first link:

I have never raped anyone. I don't think that's somethig to be proud of. It's the default fucking setting that every goddamned man on this stupid fucking planet ought to have. You can't be proud of not raping anymore than you can be proud of not shitting on yourself whenever you laugh. Most men*, as far as I know, have never raped anyone, and in a normal world you'd think that not being an evil, violent monster would make one more sympathetic to one's fellow human beings, IE women, who are also not monsters.

Apparently, that's not the case, as tons of male bloggers are stepping over themselves to equivocate and fiddle back and forth on the subject of rape. Sure, they lazily toss in 'tributes' to women who have been assaulted before lecturing thse women on how they ought to behave, but the truth is that they seem more worried about giving some kind of cover, understanding, to the victimizer.

These sad douchebags seem to think men can't control themselves. They seem to think that it's somehow the woman's responsibility not to get raped, rather than society's responsibilty to punish and prevent rape in the first place.

While I'm ranting, sexually liberated women are the best women on earth. God bless 'em. They ought to be praised, not blamed for a culture that seems to think that sexual openess somehow justifies assault.

From the second link:

The old "unlocked car/flashy jewelry/running naked" in a violent neighborhood at night argument is a common tactic in favor of shaming the victim. The idea seems to be that by somehow giving temptation to rapists, the victims of rape, while not actually to blame per se for their predicament, ought to endure greater responsibility for their situation.

It's also completely wrong.

The thing people (mostly male, though occasionally females as well) who make this argument are forgetting is that women, simply by being women, are on display at all times.

Exactly. Abso-fucking-lutely. Telling rape victims--including drunk 18yos in Aruba--that they ought not to be flashing the goodies reduces women to, well, to goodies to be flashed. Dude, if I get drunk off my ass and stumble down the street, I'm not flaunting "goods" to be "stolen." I'm getting drunk and stumbling down the street. If you see it as anything else then bingo, baby: that's what we call rape culture.

And speaking as one of those women who is, for the most part, sexually liberated, I'm glad that there are some guys out there who get that. Because the ones who don't sure as hell aren't worth fucking, and a girl has to get laid once in a while.